Scott
Good counsel, definitely worth more than ‘two cents worth’. There are actually two step daughters that are in the close circle of this. Your remarks about “… those who were sure they knew my wife’s life better...” resonated. One step daughter D. sees the truth and knows what I know, thankfully. The other B. is in denial, and ascribes ‘the problem’ to me. ME. B. herself has some difficult life circumstances (but then we ALL do) Circumstances that yield a 6 year morning period of not ‘getting on with life’ after her husband of 10 years died. 6:10 seems way off norm, of 1:5. Anyhow, B. has become a confounding influence, the saving grace is she is 1,000 miles away. Interface is rare.