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Husband shutting down emotionally
Head & Neck Cancer | Last Active: Dec 27, 2022 | Replies (7)Comment receiving replies
Thank you so much for your encouraging words. He is resistant to most everything I suggest. I think you are right, he can dump on me, but is singing praises for his nurses and technicians at the Cancer Clinic. He has preferred to sleep alone, so I am now in the second bedroom. I asked that in the morning could he come to my room and we could check in with each other… how we are feeling. He agreed. Well, first day… he won’t. Says he just wants to be alone. Why did he agree. When I said it disappointmented me, he accused me of starting an argument. I can’t win. 😢
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@sandralea58, I agree with everything that @sepdvm shared. While the treatment is focused on the patient, the cancer experience affects everyone, often in different ways. Your needs, especially now, do not take second place to his. While you may have been willing to put all emotions and needs on hold while you were BOTH going through the active treatment phase, it's time that you find equal ground. This is territory that @naturegirl5 revisits with her partner to keep the relationship and communication through tough times dealing with cancer, treatment, post treatment and through fear of recurrence.
Have you considered asking for an appointment with an oncology social worker for yourself? Most hospitals have social workers specialized in working with cancer patients and family members. All hospitals have social workers. I think you might find it helpful to talk to someone who may have helpful resources for you. What do you think?