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Spouse with cognitive problems and finances
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 30, 2022 | Replies (290)Comment receiving replies
Today Erica from hospice arrived to give him a bath (in bed), shave him, change his sheets, etc. He enjoyed her rubbing on lotion. Lately he says my hands are too cold to touch him. Then wants to hold my hand or pet me.
Other when Erica was here he has mostly been sleeping. Went to sleep as she was walking out of the room. Again today he has refused food of any kind. I think that is one of the hardest thing a spouse/caregiver goes through. I have spent 37 years cooking his favorites and watching him enjoy them. Fixing food for him was a sign of love and care. Now I can't give him that.
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Dear Julie,
I remember a woman who had terminal Cancer and her last wish was to cook a meal for her husband. What an unselfish wish -just like your unselfish wish to cook a nice meal for Bill, after all those years of cooking for him.
There are still ways of showing Bill your unselfish love and the most loving to me is having him stay in his home with you. We know the alternative and it is harsh.
To me, there is nothing more loving than having Bill stay at home and because you do, Bill knows and feels your love for him. My friend did the same and she was the only one with him when he died. Her in-laws even owned a nursing home and it would have been easier for her to keep him there. She made the unselfish decision to keep her husband home with her until the end.
I pray you will find acceptance and peace of mind because you deserve it, Julie.