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A discussion for people over 60: Let's focus on what we can do
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Right now there is no fun in my life. After we finally had my husband's commitment on October 31st, I was finished with physical therapy and I feel empty. I am in therapy. No results so far. I have no physical problems but plenty of mental problems. It is my belief that I have just started to mourn for my husband - a year late. There are times when the pain of his loss is so great that I just scream and scream. I do not want to do anything or go anywhere. I am just locked in my grief. All say time is the great healer. But at 88 how much time is there?
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First of All, God Bless You! I’m sorry your going though this. Do you have children? And if yes do you have their emotional support? I know everyone has their own life and jobs and families to care for too. I have 2 grown daughters but I rarely see them. My husband is alive but his job keeps him gone 3 weeks out of a month, so I am alone most of the time. My saving grace is my fur babies. I have 2 dogs and 4 plus cats. So I am never really alone. They sleep with me which is very comforting. They love my attention. They are dependent on me, so they keep me busy. I believe they are Gods Gift for people like us. Without them I would be lost. They also bring joy and a sense of peace. They are my Angels. This is why Support animals are acceptable everywhere, they are truly necessary for a lot of people. I talk to my babies, I feel their love and I love them. They make my life worth living. You may already have pets, I don’t know, but if you don’t please get you one or 2 or 3, I promise they will change your life. They will heal your broken heart! Peace and love be with you my friend❤️😊😘
I am very sorry for you. It's not a good place that you are in. Now I have several women friends that live alone and I can't tell you the joy they get from their cats. I don't mean to slap an easy solution on what is a heart breaking problem but it has worked for my friends and I just wanted to share it with you...God Bless.
So Marilyn , I get it, and I KNOW losing your partner when your age is past 85, is VERY difficult. (General Consensus of Opinion). I am so sorry! I can make suggestions, but the old "we are so different" always comes into play. I used to be a Volunteer in many different ways with different circumstances and Organizations. Right now, there are still a few Millennials that ask advice, but no more door to door. Church is not an option for me, but perhaps it would make a HUGE difference in your life? Better still. even volunteering to make phone calls to other widows or widowers can make a you know you are not alone in your grief. Check out some Organization in you area...or outside in a larger city? You are NOT alone. Best to you!
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I just attended a 10 week Grief Recovery Group with CMHA. It was wonderful. There are many kinds of grief. Loss of health, family members, loss of job, etc. I guess I had never thought of these as grief invoking. I went after I couldn’t get over the loss of my father. It just gutted me. I feel a bit better now. Bless your heart!