Bill is eating and drinking very little. This morning he managed a half piece of French Toast and most of a cup of hot cocoa. For lunch he wanted a Twinkie. His weight loss is staggering. He is very frail (89) and he won't do anything to help himself. Doctors say to make him get up and get his own water - but watching him trying to move is painful for me and doesn't seem to help him. So I feel guilty if I get him his water and guilty if I don't get it. One hospice assessor that he should be on hospice but the doctor on duty said dying of old age wouldn't qualify (according to Medicare the weight loss and falls and general failures could be a trigger. ) At the moment I'm trying for at home care as trying to get him out at all is almost impossible. He also doesn't want to see or talk to family or friends.
One of his funny things the other day was he couldn't remember the name of something he wanted to eat but it was in a can with white stuff in the middle. I immediately guessed Twinkie and he was delighted I knew what he was talking about. His dementia seems to effect mechanical things a lot. His vocabulary is still fantastic (at one point he was an English teacher).