Wow you are having a rugged time and a few things come to my mind that I have! One is Generalized Anxiety Disorder, which I take Effexor xr for! Life changingly wonderful! I was never actually depressed….but untreated this can LOOK like depression when it is a geneticly inherited disorder! It can feel very much like you are describing adding a possible panic attack or a nervous tic in the eye or arm?…….hives or rashes when stressed……?…..and one or two things you simply can’t tolerate, bridges? Tunnels? Heights? ……are common but I know folks with different ones. It is much more frequently diagnosed properly in women but men have it as well. It’s so very important to get this in check. One of the other issues that came to my mind was another one that is often co morbid w GAD and thats POTS. And you have a lot of flags to indicate getting that one looked at. My version of POTS is simply a rapid pulse, very! And I take 25 of Tenormin for that for decades, and I also experienced some vertigo btw!…nasty stuff vertigo. That may be what you are referring to.!!…..it’s hard to describe. I remember being under a lot of stress more than a few times when it really hit me before Tenormin and Effexor! Never had any of that again. You may notice other family members that as they age become very controlling and bitchy if you alter anything and they don’t handle NO very well at all. Thats what GAD looks like as an other difficult woman….or man…..undiagnosed and treated was what happened to Robin Williams who then developed Parkinsons Lewy Body, just like my mother. So much was learned from his brain study and diaries he left to help others. He was Welsh and so it my mother, so I, as a professional counselor and before that teacher, soaked up every finding. And yes, my family is riddled with it. My two adult children are now both medicated for GAD and finally enjoying a normal happy productive life. My son said he was shocked at the difference it made in his life. He was a tough one to convince.!. If nothing else, this will give you a few things to look at and consider! Don’t let any doctor blow you off! You must be the advocate for yourself and you are so very smart to ask on an open site like this! Bravo to you! I would have loved this possibility at your age!…..God Bless you!!!!