Prostate cancer surgery: What can I expect & prepare for?

I am 56 years old and had a radical prostatectomy and lymphadenectomy on November 3, 2022. The surgery went very well and I spent one night in the hospital. The Mayo clinic staff were incredible, with my only complaint being Pathology timeliness (still waiting on final pathology report). I had four incisions from the robotic surgery and one 2" incision for prostate removal. For me, the catheter was the most uncomfortable part of the recovery. My wife used a rotation of Ibuprofen ( three 200 mg) and Acetaminophen (two 500 mg) to control my pain, versus the Oxycodone. I was told the Oxycodone can cause constipation - Definitely would not want this while having the catheter inserted.
After getting the catheter removed, I have had stress incontinence (laughing, coughing, etc.) and periodic leakage. I try to wait until I feel like I need to empty my bladder (max 2 hours) before peeing, but there is increased leakage as time goes along. I find wearing an adult diaper is the most convenient method for dealing with the leakage. At night, I agree with an earlier post, the 3'x3' pads are awesome - They give me peace of mind and twice prevented a mess. Doctor has me doing two sets of Kegels (10 fast reps, 10 slow on/hold 3 seconds/slow off) three times a day. I have been doing these consistently, but don't feel any improvement at this point. Curious, given that I am 19 days post surgery, does anyone know if this is slow progress or somewhat average?
For those that have received their pathology report, does anyone have a situation where they had chemical reoccurrence of PC, even though they had a negative margin within the prostate? Based on biopsy, I have a Gleason score of 4/3. Based on research I have done, thinking reoccurrence post radical prostatectomy is very low when Gleason score is 6 (3/3) or less.
It has been great to read all the comments. Thanks so much and praying that all goes well for everyone.

only having stress incontinance at 20 days post surgery sounds pretty good to me. That's what? a week post cath removal? I was right about there at that point, maybe a hair better at most since I didn't use the pads except as an "just in case" item. It was a month before I was told it was okay to work out again so, if memory serves. I was very close to were you are. Is that normal? my team insinuated it was a little better than normal.

Do Those Kegels!

I am 56 years old and had a radical prostatectomy and lymphadenectomy on November 3, 2022. The surgery went very well and I spent one night in the hospital. The Mayo clinic staff were incredible, with my only complaint being Pathology timeliness (still waiting on final pathology report). I had four incisions from the robotic surgery and one 2" incision for prostate removal. For me, the catheter was the most uncomfortable part of the recovery. My wife used a rotation of Ibuprofen ( three 200 mg) and Acetaminophen (two 500 mg) to control my pain, versus the Oxycodone. I was told the Oxycodone can cause constipation - Definitely would not want this while having the catheter inserted.
After getting the catheter removed, I have had stress incontinence (laughing, coughing, etc.) and periodic leakage. I try to wait until I feel like I need to empty my bladder (max 2 hours) before peeing, but there is increased leakage as time goes along. I find wearing an adult diaper is the most convenient method for dealing with the leakage. At night, I agree with an earlier post, the 3'x3' pads are awesome - They give me peace of mind and twice prevented a mess. Doctor has me doing two sets of Kegels (10 fast reps, 10 slow on/hold 3 seconds/slow off) three times a day. I have been doing these consistently, but don't feel any improvement at this point. Curious, given that I am 19 days post surgery, does anyone know if this is slow progress or somewhat average?
For those that have received their pathology report, does anyone have a situation where they had chemical reoccurrence of PC, even though they had a negative margin within the prostate? Based on biopsy, I have a Gleason score of 4/3. Based on research I have done, thinking reoccurrence post radical prostatectomy is very low when Gleason score is 6 (3/3) or less.
It has been great to read all the comments. Thanks so much and praying that all goes well for everyone.

My husband just had retropubic radical prostatectomy one week ago. He’s 55 years old. Everyone is different how they do but can tell you our experience so far. Surgery went well without any concerns or complications. He had a lot of pain for the first couple days after surgery. He wanted off narcotics as soon as possible so pushed it a bit the second night, only taking Tylenol, and had an exhausting night. Gave in and had a last dose of dilaudid the next morning and had a good rest. After that he has steadily improved. Off Tylenol completely as of about five days postop. Urinary catheter takes some getting used to, quite uncomfortable if it gets moved around much but that’s more about getting a system to change from overnight larger urinary bag to the smaller, easier to move around with leg urinary catheter without any pulling or movement of the catheter. He doesn’t much notice the leg urinary bag anymore and feels pretty free with it. He needed help emptying it the first few days as bending that far forward uncomfortable. The larger overnight bag fine as the longer tube makes it easier from him to lift to empty it. He has a moderate amount of edema/swelling in his lower abdomen and scrotum but not painful, no bruising, told typical for this surgery (he also had some lymph nodes removed) and it is expected to be at its worst right now which isn’t bad. He came home on the third day after surgery, just because took until then to be able to walk. He sat up on edge of bed first day postop but became super nauseous. Seems to be common occurrence. Might be worthwhile asking if you can have anti-nausea before your first attempt to stand as the nausea is what held him back that first day. He had Zofran IV when nauseous that first day which settled the nausea right down. Second day they gave him the Zofran antinausea medication an hour before he attempted to get up and he managed to get up to standing for a bit and marching his feet a bit but dizzy and painful and not up to walking yet. Third day he was good to walk. Came home that day but unable to do stairs. Slept in recliner. Next day could do stairs but not able to lie down and get up in bed so slept in recliner again. Third night home he was back in own bed. He has been going for walks outside each day, getting longer each time. Makes him feel a little more normal. The mental stuff is tough, going from athletic and feeling fine to having a urinary catheter and not allowed to lift anything and tough even bending down enough to tie his own shoes. But it is temporary and improving each day. He had blood in urine initially when moved around including some coming out around catheter, including when pushed at all with BM. Minimal bleeding now, just orangish discoloration in urine in bag when he moves a lot. Hmm. What else. He has been on injectable heparin once a day. He was fine doing it himself for a few days then stung extra one day and now I do it for him which he finds easier. First BM was pretty awful as very painful to contract abdomen at all. Be sure to use some sort of stool softener after the surgery as can’t imagine hard stool on those first BMs. I’m sure doctor will suggest something.
It is good for us too reading the posts on this thread. We will get protectors and pads, etc in advance of his urinary catheter removal which is scheduled for next Monday. We get the histology results back then too . . . 😳.
One question for anyone reading this post who has been through RP - my husband has quite a bit of discomfort sitting on regular chairs, just behind base of penis and in front of anus. Surgeon mentioned to expect that and maybe try a donut cushion. We tried a couple but they raise him too much in chair so he can’t use armrests and backs of chairs kind of low to rest head/neck against because he is raised. Has anyone figured a better system to take pressure off that area until it settles down and is more comfortable?

My husband just had retropubic radical prostatectomy one week ago. He’s 55 years old. Everyone is different how they do but can tell you our experience so far. Surgery went well without any concerns or complications. He had a lot of pain for the first couple days after surgery. He wanted off narcotics as soon as possible so pushed it a bit the second night, only taking Tylenol, and had an exhausting night. Gave in and had a last dose of dilaudid the next morning and had a good rest. After that he has steadily improved. Off Tylenol completely as of about five days postop. Urinary catheter takes some getting used to, quite uncomfortable if it gets moved around much but that’s more about getting a system to change from overnight larger urinary bag to the smaller, easier to move around with leg urinary catheter without any pulling or movement of the catheter. He doesn’t much notice the leg urinary bag anymore and feels pretty free with it. He needed help emptying it the first few days as bending that far forward uncomfortable. The larger overnight bag fine as the longer tube makes it easier from him to lift to empty it. He has a moderate amount of edema/swelling in his lower abdomen and scrotum but not painful, no bruising, told typical for this surgery (he also had some lymph nodes removed) and it is expected to be at its worst right now which isn’t bad. He came home on the third day after surgery, just because took until then to be able to walk. He sat up on edge of bed first day postop but became super nauseous. Seems to be common occurrence. Might be worthwhile asking if you can have anti-nausea before your first attempt to stand as the nausea is what held him back that first day. He had Zofran IV when nauseous that first day which settled the nausea right down. Second day they gave him the Zofran antinausea medication an hour before he attempted to get up and he managed to get up to standing for a bit and marching his feet a bit but dizzy and painful and not up to walking yet. Third day he was good to walk. Came home that day but unable to do stairs. Slept in recliner. Next day could do stairs but not able to lie down and get up in bed so slept in recliner again. Third night home he was back in own bed. He has been going for walks outside each day, getting longer each time. Makes him feel a little more normal. The mental stuff is tough, going from athletic and feeling fine to having a urinary catheter and not allowed to lift anything and tough even bending down enough to tie his own shoes. But it is temporary and improving each day. He had blood in urine initially when moved around including some coming out around catheter, including when pushed at all with BM. Minimal bleeding now, just orangish discoloration in urine in bag when he moves a lot. Hmm. What else. He has been on injectable heparin once a day. He was fine doing it himself for a few days then stung extra one day and now I do it for him which he finds easier. First BM was pretty awful as very painful to contract abdomen at all. Be sure to use some sort of stool softener after the surgery as can’t imagine hard stool on those first BMs. I’m sure doctor will suggest something.
It is good for us too reading the posts on this thread. We will get protectors and pads, etc in advance of his urinary catheter removal which is scheduled for next Monday. We get the histology results back then too . . . 😳.
One question for anyone reading this post who has been through RP - my husband has quite a bit of discomfort sitting on regular chairs, just behind base of penis and in front of anus. Surgeon mentioned to expect that and maybe try a donut cushion. We tried a couple but they raise him too much in chair so he can’t use armrests and backs of chairs kind of low to rest head/neck against because he is raised. Has anyone figured a better system to take pressure off that area until it settles down and is more comfortable?

Which Mayo Clinic did you go to, and how did you choose your surgeon? I was diagnosed Gleason 6 in September 2022 and am not sure my Urologist has enough experience.