Regarding your son, @thisismarilynb, all families seem to have some dysfunction. Frequently we have to overlook areas where we do not agree and just dwell on the relationship. We go through that with my step-children. We never see them and they do not put themselves out at all to see us. This despite when my husband and his ex-wife divorced he had custody of his children and that was what the children wanted! I feel bad for my husband because I know it hurts him but thankfully our son and daughter are both very close to us.
I hope your son will call and invite you to Thanksgiving. We are going to my stepson's, it's the one time a year when we see him. It's been a couple of years since we last saw his daughter.
If you don't hear from your son I hope you have other friends or relatives who will want to include you in their celebration.
Hugs, JK