I have crippling anxiety amongst other mental health issues and I receive SSDI (social security disability) due to me not being able to function normally. I am grateful to get that money although it isn't enough to live on where I live anyway. I struggle to pay my bills and that adds onto my anxiety but I always figure it out on my own in some way or another. My therapist told me it's ok to ask for help with a bill paid directly to the company but not to just ask for money or depend on anyone to rescue me financially as it's my responsibility to pay for my bills with every dollar I get from SDDI. As a person that struggles with the anxiety sometimes it's hard to acknowledge that you are responsible for your life no matter how hard it is or how much more anxiety it creates. If you are able maybe you could help him try to get disability or push him in the direction to do so for himself. Forms are online and it is difficult to get. They seem to always deny you the first time but stay persistent and if he qualifies he'll get it. I don't think you should be paying his way through life. Mom doesn't stand for ATM as my mom told me years ago. It's going to be rough on you to stop but it will be worth the rough patch to show him that he has to be accountable even if he does have crippling anxiety. Hugs to you. I hope that you find comfort knowing that you're only doing what's best for him by not allowing him to be irresponsible and dependant on you for his needs at this point in his life and yours.