Hi Hj83,
I'm so sorry to hear about your nephtrectomy and your catheter problem. I looked up nephtrectomy on the Mayo Clinic website at https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/nephrectomy/about/pac-20385165. It gives a lot of information that is very helpful in understanding this procedure and all it entails. If the link I gave you doesn't work, just go to the Mayo Clinic website and do a search for nephtrectomy. You can trust what the Mayo Clinic says about medical procedures. They are very reliable especially when it comes to information. I live in Edmonds WA and can't even get to the Mayo Clinic but I use their website to research all the medical issues my husband and I are going through such as my incontinence and his lung cancer. Also remember it is your body! You can say no to anything you don't feel good about or that affects you badly when you take it. I'm sure your doctor knows what he is doing and is trying to do the best for your condition. However, as is the case these days, doctors are very overworked and just don't have the time to research everything or know that much about you and how you react to things.

When my husband had his surgeries for cancer I typed up all of his medical information, (meds, former surgeries, allergies etc.) with copies and handed them out to his doctors and everyone involved with his surgeries. They were very glad to get the information. It helps to keep everything correct.

Also don't forget to pray and leave everything in God's hands. He made you and he can fix you! That's what my husband and I told God about his lung cancer. Last week my husband's cancer doctor said he didn't need to see him for a year! So God does answer prayers. Fear is normal in a situation like yours. God can help you get through that. Besides, December is one of the months that a large miracle happened when God's son, Jesus was born. Tell God you'd like a miracle in Dec. I'm sure you'll get one! I'll say a prayer for you too!
Merry Christmas in advance!
PML