We caregivers have to be strong, take many deep breaths, take care of ourselves and carry on. Keep reminding ourselves that it's the disease causing the person to lash out. In his right or former mind, he probably wouldn't do that. Yet it's so difficult not to have our loved one's anger or depression hurt us. What a cruel disease this is that makes a person who needs caregivers so much act sometimes act in so many ways to drive them away.