I am so sorry you feel this way. It is different for each of us and I think you’ll have difficulty finding someone else’s “life style” that fits you. What I meant was creating your “life style” that suits your physical and emotional needs due to your illness. As an example I do all our meal planning and prep and any upper body work like countertop preparation causes me grief. Do I divide it up during my day so not everything is prepared at one time. This way I get to lay down and rest my back between sessions. I know I need to walk 2 miles daily and I make that a priority for my day. It’s all about me now after a career in nursing taking care of others. This my idea of My Life Style for my pain control.