Hi@becsbuddy
Yes need to get appts for both Don and My wellness physical exam. We finished our lab work for this. One main problem I face as caregiver is that I am quite ill myself with terrible IBS and 24/7 arthritic back so I lay down sometimes all day due to pain. Have asked my PC'S nurse to help me find a good helper for me that Medicare might pay for part. And I hope my PC can give me some advise/help with hubby's beginning dementia. I am suffering terrible IBS pain today. Usually Norcal helps the bowel pain the best I hate to use it though causes consipation and the merry go round again.. I have a cat scan with contrast this month to see if I'm still cancer free from colon cancer . Did have 10 free counseling sessions at my church and was told it's only going to get worse with my husband. Moved out of Independent Living Community. Way too expensive and always on lockdown when a Covid cluster occurs. Trying to get help with my IBS and painfull spine. Spine doc told me about a new procedure that is minimally invasive abalation into the offending disc nerve. go home same day but only has a 50% chance of success. Will be going to the IBS connect group next and some others. Wish me luck in finding resources for me to stay calm when my husband has verbal anger attacks. He also is in pain with PAD and can't move with out pain in his leg therefore cannot walk with walker more than a few feet. He also has the most screeching COPD cough that drives me batty.I see no hope for the future. I just keep on truckin' but without any joy
@virtuous69 Have you contacted your Area Agency on Aging. They should be able to help you find answers to all these questions you have. And help you to decide on what is the best living option for you and Don. I included a link to the National Institute on Aging:
https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/residential-facilities-assisted-living-and-nursing-homes
It might also help you to get a referral to a geriatrician—a doctor who specializes in aging:
https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/specialists-in-aging-do-you-need-a-geriatrician
Do you have children or friends who can help you with your research and panning?