I too am in a similar “tough love” situation/dilemma, trying to decide if following through will help or hurt. I have a 40 yo who has a job, but only part-time. He depends on us for about 95% of his expenses. He has generalized anxiety and has talked of suicide, but without any plan. He refuses help, and it is desperately needed, because of alcohol involvement, as well. I would welcome any ideas, comments, suggestions from any of you. Is there a therapist in the house?