I too suffer from anxiety and am no familiar with "tough love" as a way to manage it. I can say however, that someone recently taught me some deep breathing exercises and that has made a huge difference. I also have many hobbies such as painting, gardening, making cards with pressed flowers and things of that nature. I put music on, wear headphones and get "lost" in my creative process. My daily walks, which are shorter now than usual, are also a good way for me to release my anxiety. Anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of. Admittedly, I do have medication to help me when I need the same.