Marcia- Being told that you have cancer for this first time and subsequent times are certainly very scary. A lot of support and understanding of what my job is in dealing with it helps keep the nightmares away. But it took many years. The more that I have become familiar with something the more in control I feel, even if it's partial control.

A long time ago someone told me that my job is to be a good patient. I've learned that this means many things but most of all I need to be in control, help decide what options are best for me along with my doctors, then make that decision work for me.

Does this make sense?