Yes, ask questions until you get answers you understand. Reading forums like this also help to understand the complexities of surgeries and the medical system in general.

The best move I made, even with a caring surgeon who I trust, was to get a second opinion for my current situation. The second opinion doctor studied my medical history so thoroughly that I got an education on what I've been through and where I'm at. Both doctors agree on about 90% on my next possible steps, so I feel reassured. My HMO will also pay for out of network opinions, but I didn't feel the need for that.

In terms of after care, my experience has been that you need to be your own best advocate. One of the most effective things I've done is to find out about what exactly my insurance covers - this way I can always ask for PT, durable equipment, home care, and other features which may not be apparent, or my doctors and nurses may not be aware of. Ask lots of questions - we shouldn't have any doubts in our minds when it comes to our health...