Oh, Elizabeth, you surely could make a soap opera. I know deep in his heart Rob appreciates your efforts, he is just trapped so deeply in his own special hell that he is unable to express it.
I don't know your religious background, but my unnamed faith is wide and deep, and every day I pray that Rob will find relief through Mayo or elsewhere and the two of you will settle into a true Mom & son relationship.

Deep brain stimulation is amazing. My husband worked for Medtronic when it was first pioneered, and he was able to watch films of some of the early surgeries, where patients were able to express the life-changing results. I truly hope it will be approved for him.

Now, on to the good news. I was able to figure out my issue - my phone is incapable of loading pictures to Mayo Connect due to "low band width" where we live - right in a major metro area!
So I must email them to the PC, then do it. The irony? Both devices are using T-Mobile to do it.
So, for reference, the tithonia (just 3 little 6 inch seedlings in May) is BIG - the angel below her is 3' tall on her pedestal, the pot in the background is about 15 gallons. In Texas, these are perennial, and eventually form a thicket. Here, they may reseed themselves, but usually I plant new each year.

The copper fountain sculpture is about 4' tall, in a tiny pond my husband built me 10 years ago, when I was recovering from hip replacements 3, 4 & 5. Then my daughter and her fiance came & landscaped and mulched the whole garden. Now it is my happy place, and their 2 little sons help me maintain it. I love to leave the living room window open to hear the splashing.