Thank you for your advice. I can see where my husband is changing in so many ways, just like your wife. So hard to understand how they think but that is the way this disease works, and always changing from day to day. Trying to reason with him is useless so I wait until he is ready to go ahead with an idea. Sometimes when he finally accepts an idea, it affects our lives very badly and then we both have to pay the consequences. Telling him “I told you so” is detrimental and cruel and is a negative afterthought he doesn’t have to share. But sometimes it is hard to deal with his stubbornness and lack of foresight but I’m learning his decisions are challenges to him. He is trying to maintain his dignity and given choices rather than orders.
I like what you said about
“those changes were being dictated by something over which neither of us had any control whatsoever.”