Hu @billchitwood Scott here again. I'll relate a couple of changes my wife went through and how I tried to manage them with her.

She, too, became confused by many things, which previously had been second nature to her. One thing I moved to was reading her items, letters, news, etc. that she once could have done for herself. I tried to remove the frustration from something she had previously enjoyed, but now some aspect of it got in her way and aggravated her anxiety level.

My wife also lost interest in many of the things she had previously taken an interest in, especially talking on the phone. She used to love talking on the phone, but this changed to it being an intrusion and turned into simple /yes' or 'no' conversations and then nothing. She also used to enjoy visits a lot, but then they became too intrusive and likewise the shorter the better was her mantra. Oftentimes, when our daughter would visit my wife's first question of her, was "when are you leaving?". Heartbreaking for her (and me) at first, but talking it through helped her understand.

In the case of my wife, with her brain so broken, it seemed everything pretty much changed and I had to accept the old adage of "the only constant is change" and that those changes were being dictated by something over which neither of us had any control whatsoever.

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