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Family Relations: How do I accept and adjust to family moving away?
Aging Well | Last Active: Sep 22, 2022 | Replies (42)Comment receiving replies
Letting go is never easy especially with children. However, we must remember that we were once in their place leaving our parents and cleaving to our spouse.
I have for years told friends and family members to raise your children but don’t get in the habit of living your life through and around your children. Children are going to leave and live their own lives.
You can only live one life and that is yours. It’s selfish to make them feel guilty because you want them around and they want to live life in their own married way.
Children will share their life with you but they don’t owe you their life meaning they want to create their own memories apart from you. She want to share time with her family regardless of the reason after 42 years of being away.
Get a hobby, travel, become part of book club with seniors. Join the YMCA. Reach out to your local church to see if any other seniors want to do outings or need a roommate.
Do something and live, love and laugh and celebrate the moments of your life past and present.
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I have always believed this, also - that children should be free to live their own lives as adults as we did and, until recently, I have done a good job of doing that but at 92 and with financial uncertainties facing us, I was not as brave as I had planned to be. But with the good advice I have received from many, including yours, I am able to see I can do this. Sometimes we need to be called out and reminded of options other than despair. Thank you.