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Depression and Anxiety at an older age
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: May 26 11:44am | Replies (625)Comment receiving replies
I am at my last attempt to get some help. I take 100 mg og seldane, and it helps, it keeps me from crying all the time, but inside I just want to quit breathing and simply not exist anymore. I am 79 female, lost my first husband 25 years ago, just recently my sweetheart John died of a massive heartattack. His family will no longer talk to me, don't know why. They said they loved me, but so did my three sons,, but until I left John they would not speak or respond to me in any way. Know I am living with my middle son, and I cnnot drive anymore, and I have trouble doing things by myself. Recently he and I had a disagreement and I really want to quit being alive. I beleive in God, in eternal life, andI think I am ready to just go on. I am tired of fighting, being in pain,unable to function the way I would like to. I'm too much of a coward to purposely hurt myself, so I stay miserable. I simply do not know what to do. I desperately need someone to talk with....JJ
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@jjwest your faith will sustain you. God does not promise us an easy time in this life, however He has promised to take care of us when we look to Him for help. I have to keep reminding myself to keep my eyes on Jesus instead of running around in a tizzy trying to find answers from others. I have to wait with courage for God to go before me and straighten my path.
I’m almost 73. I live alone. Married and divorced 3 times…I have 2 sons, one of which can’t help himself get out of a box. My daughter died 4 years ago at age 45 from an overdose of fentanyl. She has 3 children. My grandchildren are blessed to have a wonderful father to care for them.
Without my faith in the Lord, I would be a total train wreck.
Praying for you and your family. 🙏🏻🌻
JJ, You were in a really hard place last night. I'm so grateful that you chose to write frankly about how you were feeling and that @gingerw and @SusanEllen66 were there.
Sometimes writing on a forum like this one may not be enough. If you ever feel like you need to talk to someone, you have options:
Call 988
The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is a national network of local crisis centers that provides free and confidential emotional support to people in suicidal crisis or emotional distress 24 hours a day, 7 days a week in the United States. You will be connected to a trained counselor. who will listen and provide support, and connect you to resources if necessary.
NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) Helpline https://www.nami.org/help
The NAMI HelpLine can be reached Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET.
Call 1-800-950-NAMI (6264), text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email at helpline@nami.org
JJ, how are you doing this morning?
Hi JJ, I hope you are feeling better today and the responses you’ve received helped! I totally understand feeling like it would be a relief if I wasn’t here. I’ve had those thoughts and feelings myself. Speaking for myself, I try to remember I’m here for a reason. My faith tells me that God has a plan for me I may not understand. I’m also pretty isolated, having had chronic pain for many years. I’ve had a hard time getting out, maintaining friendships and simply being able to take care of myself. I’ve had times when I was shunned by family and it was very painful emotionally. I lost my father and older brother in the past 10 years and some close friends as well. I understand loss and limitations from health issues. Not to mention the challenges we face as we age! Throughout my life I’ve hung onto my faith and I’ve found contentment in the simple things in life. I try not to let my challenges overwhelm me by finding enjoyment in a morning cup of coffee, a short walk or a good movie. I have a dog who offers me unconditional love! I now have a relationship with my mother that I cherish. I’ve found pleasure in a few interest’s like a small garden, made an attempt at drawing and painting! I practice meditation and make smoothies with my favorite fruit. I try to eat good. I take small steps every day to benefit myself in some way. It’s not always easy for sure! I have depression and when I’m feeling down, it’s not easy to get through the day. I try to remember those feelings will pass. I live alone so it’s up to me to stay focused on the positive things in my life! We face many challenges in our world today! I hope you continue to reach out to find support and hope for yourself. I think you’ve made a great step coming here, there are wonderful caring people to offer tools and information to help. Have you talked to a therapist or general practitioner about how you’re feeling? I have both and they can help!
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@jjwest It is never easy when we feel hopeless, and alone, is it? Have you spoken to your prescribing doctor about the way you are feeling? Your son may be aware of your struggles and is waiting for you to talk to him, tell him you need more help. If you are part of a faith community, there may be a group there for you to associate with. Check the Senior Services in your county and get some resources. No one should have to go day-to-day and feel like there is no way out.
Please let me know what you decide to do?
Ginger