For a woman who is 89, being a caregiver for your husband, and you being handicapped yourself, is very, very commendable!
I want to offer you my congratulations for the loving care you give your husband, in spite of your handicap and your age.
You are right, God is pouring his blessings upon you and you are using them to be a caregiver for your husband and for you! Just the fact that you have a clear mind at your age is a huge blessing!
I also had a close relative who was always asking me what was wrong with her brother. So, I found a list of his medical problems from a recent visit summary and I sent it to her. She never asked what his problem was again.
It’s not easy for relatives to believe their loved one has a disease because they are not with them day after day, watching the changes going on with him, as we are. Not believing also relieves them of any responsibility to help.
I also commend you for getting help for him and you still making meals.
You are totally devoted to his care and I would like to offer you prayers of thanks for being an excellent role model for all of us caregivers.