3 years ago my husband was diagnosed with some brain cell loss, indicating Questionable dementia. He had still been in his career of owning his own CPA Practice. He was still in practice but was much slower and having troubles with numbers where his administrator assistant would find errors and it would take him a longer time to correct them. Therefore he as forced to retire. He continued to assist another CPA and gradually on his own stopped entirely over a 3 year period. During those years I felt a lot of his problems were dues to depression. We both lost our mates to illness and had known each other as couples over 40 years. We both have families. My family accepted his diagnosis but his adult children did not believe their dad had dementia. Over those 3 years some days he seemed fine, i even doubted dementia. What makes his diagnosis seem so bad is the fact I’m in a wheelchair myself. I get around in the home very well but a few things I cannot do for him. He likes to sit in family room during day taking his meals and everything at his chair. There are steps to family room. He is also incontenent meaning even with diapers the bed is wet every day. So as of January this year i had to hire a care person, housekeeper aide. I still can do meals. During these years I struggled emotionally. I have a womens bible study in our home 1x a week during fall and spring. My sisters in Christ as well as My Father God have helped me stay well. Having a husband with any form of mind problems has to be harder on the mate than the patient. I felt betrayed, angry, alone, spent, looking for HELP. Without the support of my family and my sisters in Christ and most of all encouragement from My Father God, I would have been screaming, crying and an angry old lady. I am 89 with a clear mind and my husband will be 90 in November. My son has endured my whinny. It isn’t right he should have to but i am blessed because he does

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