Welcome @mooshymom, You mentioned arthritis in the back. I also have lower back issues from degenerative arthritis but it's mostly just aches and not too bad yet. There is a discussion you might find helpful.

-- What can I do about arthritis in neck and lower back?: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/arthritis-in-neck-and-lower-back/

Has your doctor provided any helpful suggestions like physical therapy or stretches and exercises that might help?