Hi, @chiefd67
Welcome to Connect. I cannot fully address your problem because I am a woman but I can tell you that there are devices that stimulate the muscles to help with incontinence. I have been using one for a while and it has helped me to be able to hold my urine but if I wait too long I still leak, sometimes heavily. I have to drink a large amount of water daily so that exacerbates the problem. I don't think anything will help me with frequency due to that.

You mention going to a urologist. If that doctor was not at a major medical center/teaching hospital I would try going to one there. I have found that the local doctors are not as good at diagnosing anything unusual as the doctors at major medical centers, simply because the doctors at larger places see a greater variety of conditions. That might give you more help than you have had so far. I hope so. I was first referred to a urologist but I chose to go to a urogynecologist instead. I believe they only work with women though.

I hope you find a doctor who can diagnose what is causing your nerve pain.
JK