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Spouse with cognitive problems and finances

Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 30, 2022 | Replies (290)

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My daughter lost her husband to ALZ about 6 years ago. He was on hospice for some months. Died holding her hand.
Bill and I have a blended family. He has one son we rarely hear from. A Grandson who said if he wasn't in the will he wanted nothing to do with his Grandfather (you can imagine what our response to that was!). Bill's two other kids are so relieved that Robin has stepped in to help. They are in NV and I'm in constant contact with them. His son Scott thinks he isn't as bad as he is (showtime and wishful thinking). But we do have their support and said they would help if we need it. Bill can only last on the phone with them for a few minutes and then he is begging off.
Something like this involves the whole family in one way or another.

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We also have a blended family in various locations; Will’s sister is in Batavia , IL (lives the closest and his only sibling), a divorcee with no children, who is content in her expensive senior home with a 5 o’clock Happy-Hour and and has detached herself completely from Will’s health issues (what health issues?)
His only 2 sons are in Texas and North Carolina and they really love their Dad, but not enough to take him into their homes if something happened to me. They would put Will into a Memory Home and hardly see him, but call like they do now. My only 2 sons who live near us would do the same, and visit Will from
time to time.
My only sibling, a younger brother and his wife, are very loving people near our age but have their own health issues. Most of our relatives are very supportive and full of love for us but they have their own issues, whether health-wise or other obligations. And life goes on for them, and that’s all that matters.
Years ago, I met a very nice man from Greece. He told me when he gets old, he’s going back to Greece, because people here do not take care of their older relatives, but in Greece, they do. Now what does that say about us as a country? There are people from other countries living here together in one home, with Grandparents and sons and daughters and great grandchildren, all together helping one another survive - very loving, very happy, very family-oriented and very religious, the way this country should be. Maybe even used to be. How very sad!