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Spouse with cognitive problems and finances
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 30, 2022 | Replies (290)Comment receiving replies
Room is not large enough for another bed - even a day bed.
The Seroquel has helped with the anger issues - a life safer.
Lately he has been commenting that he thinks he will go soon. He has a lot of health issues but all kept under control with medications. I give him his meds each morning and night as he gets them mixed up and/or forgotten. He takes a lot of them.
His sister had dementia in her early 60s - died quite a few years ago. She was way overweight. Had back problems and to qualify for disability had to be home bound - which wasn't good for her. Bill, along with his late Mom and sister, all preferred to stay home and not interact with people other than family. Bill won't even interact with family if he can help it.
In TN in 2013 I'm sure Bill had a TIA - by the time they got him to the hospital he was fine and the doctor claimed it was just vertigo. They didn't run any tests. Bill just claimed he was dizzy. The doctor never asked me what had happened. I would not have called 911 for just 'dizziness'. He couldn't speak - couldn't move - when he could finally speak a little his voice was terribly slurred and almost impossible to make out what he was staying. It is possible he suffered another TIA the other day, but symptoms gone. Understand with a TIA that can leave quickly. Rest of the afternoon it was as if nothing happened.
Each day seems to be a new adventure. Some okay and most not good.
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True.. sometimes with a TIA or mild stroke the symptoms disappear quickly and they don't show on MRI. Mama had CT scans because of a pain stimulator she had had metal in it. CT scans do not show as much.
The last stroke Mama had caused a brain bleed. Not a candidate for surgery for it at age 92. She could not speak .. just make noise. She could write on my hand and indicate yes and no. All they couod do was to put a feeding tube in and she would be no better than she was. She understood the doctor and after he left we went over what he said again and she indicated she understood . I told her I would do whatever she wished me to do. She said no to feeding tube. So we made arrangements for hospice for her in my home town so I and my brother could be with her. I could not take care of her at home even with hospice help.. they will not stay 24 hours a day. I had had hand surgery and could not take care of her needs. She could only have two visitors and no changing out with others. I gave my brother the choice if he wanted to take shifts and he said he would. Most days he stayed 3 hours .. me 8. Looking back I wish I had just said my husband would be the other care person. He was more of a son to Mama than my brother. Mama passed on 24 August 2020 a few days after going to hospice. My brother has not talked to me since the first week of that Sept. Which is fine with me. I have another brother out in Washington state. We are close .. with covid it was not a good idea for him to travel to GA.
I am a homebody… just prefer not to be around many people. I am 71 and do not think I will make it many more years with my health problems. I try to make the best of each day… do a little that brings me joy.