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Connecting with others who struggle with their Mental Health
Mental Health | Last Active: Aug 27, 2022 | Replies (18)Comment receiving replies
I'm not sure if I am in the right section of this site. I just joined to try to help my Grandson. I just found out he has admitted himself to a hospital. All we know is that he said he wanted to kill himself. Unfortunately he is an adult so we have little information. They will not let his father, my son, know anything. He is 27 years old. He has always been a loaner and has never had very many friends. His life has been very difficult. His parents divorce was traumatizing for him as she just abandoned them for a whole year when he was in second grade. Was on medication in school but didn't seem to help much. He survived school. He now works full time and still lives with Dad. We have had some tremendous loses in the last few years. His sister was killed at the age of 21 in a fatal car wreck in 2014. It left him scarred for life, I'm afraid. They were very close. His mother has had no contact with him at all so that isn't helping. We also lost our adult son a few years after his sister was killed in 2019. He was also close to his uncle. Heavy addiction was the problem. As far as I know my grandson has slowed way down on his drinking and had been going to a gym regularly and has held down a job. So this just seem to pop up out of the blue. I just want to be supportive but don't know how to. I'm afraid if my son loses his last child to this I will be losing him as well.
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@lindaw2 I have read and reread your post contemplating whether to respond in the hopes of trying to be of help. I can relate to some of what your grandson has been through in trying to deal with one’s own depression while trying to make sense of one’s life. I too have checked myself into hospital because I was concerned for me. As scary as that was for me at least I had a moment to do the right thing. Then having to deal with hospital protocol is another matter because one is to have no contact with family or friends for a period of time. A difficult time for all.
I pray for your grandson, your family and you.🙏🏼❤️
@lindaw2 It must be heartbreaking for you to experience this. But, kudos to your grandson to realize he needs some professional help to get through his struggles!
@marjou has given us some good information about the protocol for no communication. If you know the place where he is, perhaps you can inquire when you will be able to see him, or if you can write him a letter?
Ginger
The fact that he admitted himself is a very good thing. He recognizes that he needs help and he is not afraid of asking for it.
It has been my experience as a mother of 2 addicted children that we, the family tend to enable their bad behavior when we think we are helping. It’s hard to believe that, but it’s so very true.
Please do yourself and the rest of your family a favor and find an Al-Anon meeting in your area. Al-Anon is a program for family and friends of alcoholics/addicts. It’s a safe place where you can share, and hear the stories of others just like you. Healing and peace can follow you through the trials that you are now and will be facing.
I have been there. There is always hope for today, one day at a time! Blessings.
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What a sad story. You could create a new topic so people would find this more easily and could react. I am at a loss for words now.