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Spouse with cognitive problems and finances

Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 30, 2022 | Replies (290)

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Hi Julie, Maybe you can discreetly read, write in a journal, do some mending or other busy work while "watching" the movie. My husband lasts about 5 minutes in front of the tv. He'd rather go into the bedroom and nap.

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Bill turns the TV on when he gets up and off when he retires for the night. He has a TV streamer and mutes the sound for Robin and I (and the kitties). He forgets a lot and it will come blaring on. When I am watching he thinks he is helping me by keeping it on mute, not realizing that I can't hear it even if I explain it to him. He has his streamer set so high that we can actually hear sound coming from his ears. Makes for very interesting TV watching on our parts. In the meantime he is perfectly happy so we leave the 'sound' up to him.

He used to spend a lot of time on his computer, constantly asking for my help as he couldn't remember how to work various programs. This past month he has basically given up on the computer to the great joy of all of us, including the kitties who would panic when he would start screaming and cursing. I think his Seroquel kicking in helped a lot on getting him away from the computer - easier to acknowledge that he can't work it except for email and even then has a problem. He also doesn't want phone calls and has given up trying to call anyone. If kids call or I call them, he will only talk a minute or two.

He seems content not to have long (10 minute at most) conversations with daughter Robin or me.

Last night both Robin and I noticed a change in his face but can't pinpoint what is different. Just something 'off'. Another large red purpura appeared on his arm along with two others that appeared the other day. Legs both have them, with one tending to bleed. Part of his CVI.

Lately he has been talking a lot about dying and asking how long his doctors give him (they haven't said anything). He has also been praying for death lately - before he was maintaining he was going to live to 105. Not sure if this is normal with dementia, a phase, or what??? Never sure how to answer his questions.