It took me a while to find my epileptologist, but it was worthwhile the battle. I also have complex partial seizures (Temporal Lobe Epilepsy).
I was referred to my current epileptologist by a neurosurgeon who was referred to me by a mother with a son with epilepsy. Referrals work very well here in Brazil (I live in São Paulo city)! Unfortunately, I can not help you with referrals to a good epileptologist in the States. Perhaps your family doctor could be helpful? Have you tried to contact the Epilepsy Foundation in the States? This is a great foundation that could help you. Perhaps there are other people here in our group living in the same region that could refer you to a good doctor. In what region/city do you live?
All the best!