Thank you for your insight. I believe my sons bipolar could be TBI related ( 10 years of rugby and hit by a car while on a bike AND while on a scooter ). He is doing better and started a new job ( hands on outside work, instead of using his college degree and ability to speak three languages … but it’s work!) - but, as his siblings remind me …. This is the pattern of things. However, I can’t help but feel hopeful during the good periods ( neither high nor low). He’s lovely to spend time with now- BUT, in his early 30’s I can’t help but wonder why he doesn’t have dreams and push hard to fulfill them. It goes beyond the comfort of a provided home ( what his siblings declare is the case ) as he would rather be homeless than be an overworked cog ( AKA - pay the price for eventual work and financial freedom… but to do only that you want to do, rather than need to do …..don’t we all wish that AND dont we all realize that’s unrealistic?!? ). Or that’s my guess at any rate. It’s all so complicated, isn’t it !!!! But when you think of it …. What’s “ normal” anyway ?!? I just want to be sure he’s prepared for life post mom. ( won’t be around forever ). Take care and thanks again catmoma!