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What strategies help you cope with behavioral changes in loved one?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Aug 25, 2022 | Replies (34)Comment receiving replies
Don’t worry about tomorrow. Today has troubles enough of its own. So my philosophy is, “One day at a time.” That’s all any of us gets, anyhow. Some days, it’s “one minute at a time”.
I can’t reason with someone who is unable to reason. Rather than argue, I walk away. Within a couple minutes, he’s forgotten. Sometimes I can approach the issue just a little differently with success. Other times, I just have to release it, unless it’s a dangerous situation (like when he thought the fire starter stick was a candy bar). Then I don’t give up so easily and am willing to risk being punched or shoved by this sweet man who would never do that in his right mind.
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I have read your comments over and over, and each time I do, the words “punch” and “shove” stand out for me.
I’m sorry your husband is sick, I truly am. But to me, that is no reason for him to physically attack you or anyone else. He may need meds for his anger/anxiety and his doctor can prescribe those for him. You might want to go for counseling together to help remind him that he must not take out his frustrations physically or verbally on any one, especially his caregivers, and give him some guidance in this area.
Otherwise, I agree with your living one day at a time on this journey. It really is the best way to help us caregivers, and also “this too shall pass” is a great reminder for me.
Thanks for sharing.