Hi @lorrie272, My husband has moderate Alzheimer's Disease. He was diagnosed in 2019, but I noticed changes in him a couple of years earlier. I sometimes go down a depressing road when I compare the changes in him, from who he was in the past to who he is now. It's better to live in the moment, as @IndianaScott suggested.
Last week I was frustrated and angry because my husband discontinued Physical Therapy, post surgery about seven months, for a broken hip. He was belligerent to the therapist, a very nice guy, who was trying to get him to do stretches. My husband was so elated when he fired the PT that I came round to thinking he felt empowered when he took action to leave PT. He has so little control of his life now and is so dependent on me that it must scare him. Long story short, at home, he'll do the stretches if I ask him, with some coaxing.
Luckily, he goes to bed early and sleeps well so I can relax at night and have some time to myself.
One nugget I picked up from somewhere, that I keep reminding myself, is never argue with someone with Alzheimer's Disease. If my husband gets adamant or angry about something, I let it go or move on to the next thing. The doctor told us to shorten his shoelaces so he wouldn't trip, and he became very angry with me when I tried to correct how he was tying them. Later that night, I shortened the shoelaces in a way he hasn't noticed, so that problem is solved.
Wishing you and your wife the best. You will always find a sympathetic ear here.