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@ljean63

Thank you for sharing. My big concern is that the soonest opening the doctor has got a biopsy of the new tumors is 6 weeks away . Does this sound like it’s too long? I don’t want to be that pushy wife, it seems like too long to wait.

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ljean63,
Since the new masses have been growing for months since microscopic stage, the wait is not that significant. That is what Urology at Mayo Rochester has told us. We waited anywhere from 3-6 weeks there from cystoscopy to biopsy/removal. Like you, when we know we have cancer in our bodies, we want it out now! I feel so strongly about that, but we were unable to move up my husband's appointments any sooner at Mayo. My experience at Mayo for head and neck cancer was totally different 6 and 8 years ago. Both times I had a new metastasis to my lung, I saw a thoracic surgeon the same day and he actually did surgery the following day! Whether it is post Covid changes, or just the current status of best in the country medical care but Urology at Mayo has never worked like that for us. We are waiting 7 weeks with a nephrostomy tube in place just to get an appointment with the reconstructive surgeon there. We have no idea how much longer we will wait for the actual surgery. There are only so many doctors, and so many hours in the day and I understand that, but it is so frustrating to wait, especially when there is cancer growing inside of you. You might try requesting a referral to a larger medical center and see if they can schedule something sooner. I think you cannot be too pushy when it is your health or your spouse's health. It doesn't hurt to ask......maybe a cancellation spot opens up? Good luck on this and know that you are doing the best that you can do.

How are you doing, LJean?