@sw54 It's good for me to know that I've been helpful to you and your husband. I'd like to share some resources I came across when I was doing some reading today about how an existential psychotherapist faced her own death when she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. I intend to look into these also as I think about my own dying and death in a much deeper way than I did before my own cancer diagnosis.

You're Going to Die is a California Bay Area nonprofit that has in-person groups but may still be meeting virtually because of COVID.
http://www.yg2d.com/resources
Ernest Becker was a cultural anthropologist who wrote Denial of Death (1973).
https://ernestbecker.org/
Death Café
https://deathcafe.com/
Will you please post again when you have questions and when you've made contact with Integrative Medicine at Mayo Clinic?