I do not believe family sometimes! Apparently your family does not understand what “boundaries” are, and so they are trying to take over your financial role for your husband. I understand that money is a real motivation, especially in families, but if they really want to help you, ask them to come over and perform your duties taking care of Bill for a day. Or pick him up and take him somewhere he might enjoy. But when it comes to taking over his finances, it’s “HANDS OFF”.