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Ashamed: I think about (and plan for) dying. Do you?
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well said Marilyn. I also suggest you put all those plans in writing and give each family member a copy. Keep a copy in your files, in your computer. Wouldn't hurt to give a copy to your lawyer too. In that way it is YOUR choice, not anyone else's, so bad feelings and guilt should not ensue. You may need to remind everyone it isn't THEIRS to decide.
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All of this is in writing and part of our trust. I worked for a probate and trust attorney for 23 years before I finally retired. So I will make this reply a reminder to all who read this to make sure that when and if you decide to make a trust and/or will you should choose a reputable attorney. Not the ones who advertise and take you to lunch. Believe me the money is worth it. We had many cases where we had to "clean up" the messes left with trust not done correctly and assets left out which had to be probated anyway; something that having a trust is supposed to avoid. No good putting them in your computer unless you give your password to get in to someone. We also gave copies of our trust and the accessory documents that go with it to our children so they know exactly what is going on. Again, during my work, we were amazed that parents kept all that secret from their children. Why?