To reassure you, your answer was not necessarily "wrong" - just too definite for the changing world we live in. For me, it would be unsettling if someone read my statement on Connect, then used it to pass up a valuable medical treatment because their option was different. So it's better to avoid "should" "must" "only" "always" and similar qualifiers, because none of us (not even the pros) know every possible option for a condition.

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I'm sorry you have had poor experiences with orthopedic surgeons & neurologists - here is something to consider...
A long time ago, a very wise physician told me "A lot of doctors become surgeons because they prefer their patients to be unconscious." And my wonderful hand therapist once told me "When you have a problem recovering from surgery - come to me. The surgeon measures success by whether the procedure worked, and you recovered without infection. I measure success by whether you can use your hand after your wound heals." Until I understood these basics, I was often put off by the behavior of specialists. That's not to say all doctors are good, just different personalities gravitate to different roles in medicine.

So the next time you are put off by the manner of a surgeon or specialist, consider whether you are seeing them for personality or procedure, then figure out how to best deal with them. For me, when meeting with any unknown specialist, I always try to go with a prepared list of questions. One of them is always "If I need more information or clarification, how do I get it?" Many surgeons employ others PA, nurse, coordinator... to screen the questions and get answers for you. If you find one willing to chat and answer you themself, you are truly having a lucky day!

Hope you are learning a lot here on Connect. We have an awesome group of people here, many living with a great many challenges.
Sue