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Spouse with cognitive problems and finances
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 30, 2022 | Replies (290)Comment receiving replies
Every other day Bill announces he is going to get his own apartment and I can come with him if I want. He also is going to buy a new car now that our old car is sold. He completely 'forgets' that the doctors said he can't drive - that AZ DVM has cancelled his driver's license. He also thinks his health is going to improve and he has another 15 - 25 good years left (he is 89 and in poor condition).
I just ignore his statements as far as I'm able. Of course he gets mad and 'punishes' me with the silent treatment (I go read a book lol).
Without Robin and my help he couldn't even get to see an apartment. He can't use any kitchen equipment - a phone is now beyond him. But he still clings to his computer.
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I'm thinking of telling him that I will keep looking for an apartment/house. To see if that can settle him down. That I haven't found any apartments we would like and houses way too expensive in this market, etc. And we don't need a car right now as Robin is doing the driving. Basically playing for time.
Any suggestions.
His daughter just commented he sounded so good on a recent phone call - ten minutes at the most! I explained to her about 'showtime'. His kids are in denial to a degree as they don't see it. When they visit he spends very little time with them and that is while watching TV. In the meantime he suggests we go out for lunch (he won't go with) or play our games, go for a walk - anything that keeps his interface to a minimum. He also goes to bed early when they visit. So even over a couple of days he is able to pull off that he is doing well.