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A discussion for people over 60: Let's focus on what we can do
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I am 80 living w/ my daughter and her hubby. I own this house and land and am still paying. Daughter convinced me to build on and move in where she could help me. She is 50. lWhen she came to my house to help me pack she got mad I was too slow. she gravved my arms and neck, threw things at me. kicked me and swore horrivble things. I never saw her like this, I was sickened. well, I finally got the t house I added on...lShe swore and yelled and I have been here a year and it hasn;t stopped. Hubby I found out has frightening temper. said khe would like to drive into a tree and kill me because my head w as in the way on a rainy day. He does not talk nor does she. I cant believe I am living like this...my "golden"years. Too old to move, I cant believe it ..saying I am nuts and etc. I stay i8n my part 97%of the t ime, with my dog,try to stay away from them. Does she have a mental illness...him too. I want to live here till I die, if I can take ite. Any help?
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@mattie, there is help for you. This sounds like something you should report and get help to stay safe. Please look into the resources on the website for National Center on Elder Abuse
National Center on Elder Abuse https://ncea.acl.gov/
Here is specific information about how to report abuse https://ncea.acl.gov/Suspect-Abuse/Reporting-Abuse.aspx
You can reach the Eldercare Locator by telephone at 1-800-677-1116. Specially trained operators will refer you to a local agency that can help. The Eldercare Locator is open Monday through Friday, 9 a.m. to 8 p.m. Eastern Time.
You do not need to prove that abuse is occurring; it is up to the professionals to investigate the suspicions.
@mattie, I'm thinking about you tonight. How are you doing?
Report them for elder abuse. There are local places that could help; but your house may not be yours any longer. What a shame! Take care.
Good morning, Mattie. I have read the very concerned and wise responses from your friends on this site. Many of us are elders, we are concerned about your abusive situation, we know this happens. Only can act on this situation. Retreating to your room may feel safe and protective isn’t your only option and will not change your intolerable situation. Please reach out to someone you trust. Do not become smaller, become larger. Become you, take your life back. You can love your daughter and take care of yourself simultaneously. You are responsible you. An empowering thought.
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Hi Mattie. I am so sad to read your story and feel your disappointment in your daughter. It sounds like you are experiencing verbal and emotional abuse. Do you have a church, friend, doctor or therapist to talk to about this issue? Please reach out, get support and get some direction to make your life better. You deserve comfort and respect always, but especially as a mother and an elder. I have offered a prayer for you. Take heart, love yourself and garner courage to move forward.