Will always got upset about money and would get angry whenever I sent money to my family. Now he sends money to his family and once In awhile gets angry when I do. I diffuse his ranting before he even finishes his complaint, by telling him I have lived with his anger about my sending money to my family almost the entire time we have been married, and I don’t want to listen to his complaints any more. It worked!
One of the triggers for Dementia patients could be they are sick and resent anyone who isn’t. I remember meeting an older woman in my Dad’s nursing home who was extremely jealous of me and “if looks could kill”, I would be gone. I did feel a little guilty because I understood why she was jealous of me. Her attitude would prevail as long as she stayed there, but her anger had nothing to do with me.
Not being able to eat food he likes can trigger anger.
Not being able to communicate his feelings or wants can be a triggers.
Not being to walk and get around by himself can be trigger.
And there are many more triggers and how to solve them in the article I sent you. I like the article so much that I am going to print a copy for myself.
I also remember visiting my Dad in the nursing home just before Will and I were going to the beach. When I told him about our plans, he got very quiet and started drumming on the table with his fingers. I knew he wanted to come with us, but Will and I didn’t have much alone time because of our visiting Dad. He really wanted all of our time. He wouldn’t tell me why he was upset but I knew. Our relationship was an on again/off again one I can tell you about when you want to know.
God’s blessings to you, Julie