Sadly, I have to agree with you about damage done to him because of drinking. Alcoholism is a disease that continues in the body and the mind. It will go to the weakest place in the body and make it worse. Thus my husband’s heart failure. In the mind, it changes cells permanently and is not reversible. If they stop drinking, the disease continues and if they start drinking again, they will start again where they left off. I have seen this in both my former husband and my present husband. What is so sad is that the potential for them to become a healthy happy person is gone forever. And you and I know that, but they don’t. We see the person they could have become, and they will never be. My husband stopped drinking, and went to several AA meetings. His thinking and his anger are better, but he still has more to work on. However, he doesn’t realize this, and is finished with AA.