Amy -
While watching a TV show last week I learned an important lesson. Boiled down, it is basically this: once a major change has happened in a partners health, measure your partner on their new reality and not on their old reality!
In a relationship, a failure to acknowledge their new reality can be a serious problem that can ruin the relationship.

What does that have to do with the person who has had that major health change?

Accept your new reality and the new limitations the new reality imposes.

In my case, it has only taken 30 difficult years - but I decided after seeing this TV show that I will no longer be the victim of my multiple CD related autoimmune diseases. And that I will get about living no matter how many years I have left but within the limits of my reality will allow! 30 years is a long time! But late is still better than not at all!
Chris47 -