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Spouse with cognitive problems and finances

Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 30, 2022 | Replies (290)

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@billchitwood

Wishing you the best on your trip. Our daughter noticed that I wasn't as good a driver any more. I had been an excellent driver since I got my license at age 16. But at 81 my reflexes aren't that great and I have a stiff neck so turning to see what is coming, or besides me, can be slow motion. Bill still thinks he is an excellent driver - but he hasn't been for years. As Robin commented, you don't know what you didn't see.

Her husband, Tom, did a complete meltdown when she took him in to get an ID and give up his DL. He loved driving and used to race. The DMV got him calmed down. Apparently it is something that they are used to. It is hard giving up one's independence - and driving is something we do without even thinking. Gosh, I need to run to the store for milk! A no brainer. Now suddenly you have to rely on someone else. Oh Rats!

Maybe when cars that drive themselves get affordable there will no longer be a need to stop driving!

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My dad was “The Terror of the Road.”
When he passed a car, he almost swiped the oncoming cars or they pulled off the road. I’m sure there were some accidents and some who may have been injured.
Before he gave up his license, he proudly told me he had passed a truck going so fast that no one could get his license plate! He saw the oncoming cars pulling off the road that might have had an accident or injuries. He never gave them a thought because “speed “ was his passion. God please forgive him! Seriously, he should never been allowed to drive.
I can remember even as youngsters him doing the same thing and my Mom, my brother and I would scream in terror whenever he passed another car!
Then there was my aunt who had a blackout in her car and sold it the next day!
So far, no one in our family has inherited Dad’s curse!