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Spouse with cognitive problems and finances
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 30, 2022 | Replies (290)Comment receiving replies
What a great accomplishment for you!
Will would be able to stop driving, and he has. But when I drove, he would scream and yell at me and try to control every move I made. So I again watched him driving, and aside from playing with all the bells and whistles, he has a tendency to sway over to the left. Swaying to the left means cars passing him on that side honk at him to stay out of the way. So he is still driving and is fine so far. I go with him when he drives down a major highway or expressway to remind him to stay inside his lane. After we move back to Chicago in July to join our families, we will only drive on local roads. If he is not driving well on the way, I will take over for him.
We will need prayers for our trip.
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Wishing you the best on your trip. Our daughter noticed that I wasn't as good a driver any more. I had been an excellent driver since I got my license at age 16. But at 81 my reflexes aren't that great and I have a stiff neck so turning to see what is coming, or besides me, can be slow motion. Bill still thinks he is an excellent driver - but he hasn't been for years. As Robin commented, you don't know what you didn't see.
Her husband, Tom, did a complete meltdown when she took him in to get an ID and give up his DL. He loved driving and used to race. The DMV got him calmed down. Apparently it is something that they are used to. It is hard giving up one's independence - and driving is something we do without even thinking. Gosh, I need to run to the store for milk! A no brainer. Now suddenly you have to rely on someone else. Oh Rats!
Maybe when cars that drive themselves get affordable there will no longer be a need to stop driving!