Hello @abtex65 and welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. I can understand your concern about sharing this with people in your daily circle, so glad that you have joined Connect to see if you can find others who you may be more comfortable sharing your experience with.

I see members @islandfrog and @julkun have joined you already.

I can tell there has been history with celibacy but it sounds like things have changed somewhat in your relationship making it now feel like you are missing out due to your health circumstances. Have you had a discussion with your wife about your feelings and to talk about if she is interested in pursing some level of pleasure in your relationship going forward and what that might look like at this point in your life? Is this a topic you two are comfortable breaching?