You seemed to have pursued many avenues to achieve relief. I sympathize and know how this affects your life. My husband was very understanding and supportive, so it must make things a lot worse if your husband can’t imagine your pain and be supportive. In my case it might help to know that my vulvodynia began with an antibiotic cream that was prescribed. I was allergic to it and it burned me. This injury caused damage to the nerves. Following that my immune system kicked in to further complicate things and I ended up with lichen sclerosis an incurable condition that is now under control. I take the maximum allowable dose of pregabalin, that’s Lyrica I believe, and 3 to 4 10mg. Pills of amitriptyline. If I feel a flare up ai apply clobetasol ointment only twice a week for 2 or 3 weeks then stop for one week and use only petroleum jelly. I don’t suffer from anxiety or stress very much with exception of suffering from constant ringing in the ears for which there is no cure and little relief. I don’t have any further suggestions for you except maybe to give all treatment involving application of stuff to your vulva except for petroleum jelly for awhile and then begin the clobetasol ointment providing your doctor prescribes it. Have you seen a dermatologist? Lots of women automatically refer us to a gyno which is not where we need to be. I firmly believe that vulvodynia is not really a reproductive system problem, it’s a skin problem. Good luck to you finding some relief. Let me know how it goes, I feel for you.