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Are these signs of Dementia or Alzheimers disease?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Jul 4, 2022 | Replies (50)Comment receiving replies
When I first met Bill he as a heavy smoker and drinker. He gave up smoking as he noticed it bothered me. He also cut back a lot on his drinking as I'm not much of a drinker (kids swear I just wave the bottle across the glass then add OJ).
Last night he got up to pee at least 3x, had on nighttime Depends, and still flooded his side of the bed. He got angry when I couldn't hear/understand what he was saying. According to daughter Robin he was mostly swearing at me. He talked and sang (nonsense words all night long. Robin could hear him across the house in her bedroom! Maybe not being able to hear as well as some benefits! Although I could 'hear' the noise.
Very long night. Off to Mayo with him this morning.
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My husband was a weekend (Binge) drinker, which is the worst kind of drinker, because they drink more to make up for not drinking all week. But he never smoked, however, his former wife died from lung Cancer. I’ve read second-hand smoke can be worse than being a smoker yourself. They were married 10 years and they drank every night, splitting a gallon of wine - every night.
In our 10th year of marriage, his anger and behavior towards me got so bad that I left him. We were in Florida on vacation and I returned to Illinois. I told him we’re done unless he stopped drinking. The day I left, he went to his first AA meeting and stopped drinking. He has not had a drink for 15 years and his behavior and anger are manageable and he now is a loving husband.
Your husband sounds like my Will with his anger and behavior towards you. I’m not saying your husband is an alcoholic, but his behavior sounds like one. Have you heard of Al-Anon?I belong to a group and I still learn and give advice when I can because I have gone to meetings for over 40 years, starting when I was married to an alcoholic.
Please do yourself a favor: read what you can about alcoholism and if you can, try going to a meeting near you. They will welcome you with open arms and give you answers to help you - not your husband - only you.
I know your plate is full, and I pray you will reach out and help yourself. No one needs to be constantly abused like you are, not anyone, sick or not.
Prayers for you.
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Wishing you all the best today, @billchitwood Hoping for some solid help and suggestions for you!
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