Hi Julie, @billchitwood, That sounds exhausting. We met with a physical therapist who specializes in urinary incontinence. He said to take the FloMax in the morning and drink liquids during the day, but not in the evening. Did you ever try a bedside commode? It could cut out trips to the bathroom.

Also, there are exercises men can do for better urinary control, contracting the muscles of the rectum, which I keep explaining to my husband, but he has difficulty understanding. Maybe Mayo Clinic can help with that or some other solutions.

I don't know if you have osteoporosis, I do. I did Pilates for years, but there are certain moves that involve forward bending and twisting of the spine that can cause spinal fractures. You're wise to carve out some time for yourself. Take care.